First Trip as Mom and Dad
Baby Clinton is 4 months old and my husband and I decided to take some time for ourselves.
My labor was 2 and a ½ days! If you’ve been there you know what that feels like. And for those of you who have not, it’s a total adrenaline rush mixed with pain mixed with pure joy and then after that all wears off its exhaustion. And I mean the type of exhaustion that you don’t get a break from for weeks and months. If you haven't gone through birth yet I don’t mean to scare you, it’s totally worth it. Promise.
But with all of that being said the one thing I kept saying to myself was, “if I could just get one day to recover then I’d be good.” Well that one day finally came and it came four and a half months later.
Did I mention how badly I needed it!!!
There was a ton of excitement, anticipation and of course a bit of worry like how will I be without Clinton?!?!?
Okay so here’s how it really went.
It was awesome! But let me explain.
I can not tell you how badly I needed to sleep. And Clinton has been sleeping through the night since 8 weeks so I can’t complain too much but there’s always a cry here and there and every now and then a blowout at 2 am but for the most part we’re pretty lucky. But the day starts anywhere between 5:30 to 6:30 and when the boss wakes up you’re up and at it without a minute to yourself. Not to mention you’re recovering from giving birth.
So I was desperately in need of a good night's sleep and the opportunity to just sleep in and get out of bed when I wanted. Not to mention that Bill and I just needed time alone to just ya know be alone and together. Even though we’re together all the time, especially with COVID we just needed downtime together.
Luckily Clinton was sleeping when we were ready to pull out. Otherwise I think it would have been a bit harder to say goodby to him. We have my parents watching him (Thank you Mom and Dad) and our nanny is there during the day. So he has around the clock love and people taking care of him so I know he’s in good hands.
Day 1: I was feeling so relieved. I mean I haven't slept in over 4 months and haven’t done anything without having to run home or be there for my little love! Bill and I loved just not having any plans or any place we needed to be.
Day 2: Heaven! I mean I got to sleep in and have time with my husband. We got to eat when we wanted too, do what we wanted too and just be regular adults. Oh and I did have to pump here and there but that’s just fine.
Day 3: A blast + pumping and dumping. I was really getting into this whole thing and starting to feel guilt that I didn’t feel guilty about being away. But then it was time to go to bed and I had a little feeling that made me sad about missing him.
Day 4: Started feeling guilty that I was away and I missed my little buddy. BUT…I knew that we needed to do this. It was so sweet I looked at Bill and said I missed our little guy and was worried about him. Bill said then let’s pack up and head home if you want to get back to him. Ok so I’ll be honest, I didn’t miss him that much but I did miss him. What made it all better was that Bill was ready to pack up and make sure that I was ok with the situation.
Day 5: We headed home so I was sad to leave my sleeping in but so excited to be reunited with my little buddy.
So to wrap this up. If you’re a mom you need to get away and spend time with your husband. I know that there’s so much that goes into getting away. There’s logistics of who’s going to take care of your child. THen there’s the hope they are well behaved or will they get sick or what’s going to happen when I’m gone. Like you leave all the phone numbers and have everything on speed dial and even do a test run with the grandparents before you head out. But at the end of the day you’ll be fine and even great. YOU NEED TO DO THIS!!! I think we get so wrapped up in having to be there for your baby that you forget about your spouse and yourself. It’s so important to have me time.
Here’s 4 reasons why it’s good got get some alone time:
- You can do what you want
- You have more energy
- You get to value the time you spend with your baby more
- You’re a better mom!!!!
Let me know what you think and if you’ve gone away. If you haven't please do it and just enjoy being an adult and enjoy your spouse.