085: How to Speak Your Truth, With Tim Matthews
The Sex, Money, and Food Podcast
Becoming your full potential with Tim Matthews…
Have you ever just known a relationship or a path just wasn’t right, but you ignored your own intuition? Our guest for this episode did and he learned a lot as a result! In fact, he learned so much that now he helps other men speak their truths to create the lives they truly desire.
On this edition of The Sex, Money and Food podcast, Tim Matthews of The Powerful Man joins us to talk about how he transitioned from being pushed to prove something, from ignoring his own truth and his own voice to being a powerful man who expresses himself and helps other men do the same.
More About This Show
Tim’s foray with The Powerful Man isn’t his first entry into entrepreneurship. About 7 years ago he started a business called Fitness4Mum, and he grew it from a few outdoor bootcamps to being the UK’s fastest growing pre and postnatal fitness franchise!
Like many other entrepreneurs, at the beginning of his journey he was burning the candle at both ends. He sacrificed all the other areas of his life for his work; he prided himself on how many hours he was working and saw it as a badge of honor. In his own words Tim says he was “…living for some day rather than today”.
But when he met a fellow entrepreneur in August of 2014, Tim realized his new friend embodied everything he wanted his own life to be. This man was running a successful online business, making great money and had powerful connections in the business world.
Tim knew he could have the same things too, he just had to stop denying himself. At the time he was engaged to a woman who he knew wasn’t his best match, his parents were putting a sizeable deposit down for their wedding and he was putting out fires on a daily basis in his Fitness4Mum business. He had bad business deals with partners who were robbing him of money, and he was generally surrounded by chaos.
From August 2014 through December of that same year he ended the engagement, the relationship, the bad business deals and partnerships, and let go of his franchises. For the first time in a very long time, he opened up and let himself be led by his feelings. And everything felt easy, peaceful and flowing!
While that may sound like it was a scary process, for Tim it was far scarier to continue down that path then to make the major changes and overhauls he made.
And those changes and that new path have made all the difference. Today he helps men avoid doing what he did and change their course by finding and expressing their voices, and their true selves. He helps create their purpose-driven businesses and build legacies.
He explains that doing so is about coming from a different place and having a different approach. He says it is much easier to create and be successful when you are being pulled versus pushing. Being pulled to do something is a whole different ball game, and he helps men find that thing that pulls them.
On this episode, Tim reveals some of the ways he helps men be seen and get the connection they need. With that connection they can be honest and speak their truths, and live their truths.
He asks them questions that help them detach from judgments, questions like what would your life look like if you had no judgment of yourself or others? What actions would you take? What would your relationships look like?
He also shares how he helps men celebrate their victories, and do so without through food or alcohol or other numbing devices, and he shares the wins he’s had this week! You’ll hear all of that and so much more on this edition of the Sex, Money and Food podcast with Tim Matthews.
Tweetable: “Expression can save people’s lives. ” ~Tim Matthews
Tim Answers the Questions
Q: Rank the following in order: sex, money, food.
A: Food at the bottom, if I went with my gut I’d put sex at #2 and money at #1.
Q: There is nothing better in life than…
A: freedom – freedom of self, being able to speak everything I think and feel.
Q: What is your ultimate pleasure in life?
A: 3 things: freedom, legacy, and contribution. I feel most alive when I’m delivering and serving, and also when I’m traveling.
Q: What does true freedom smell like to you?
A: fresh air! That’s the first thing that came to me.
Q: What is a mistake or a circumstance you went through in your 20s regarding sex, money, and food that has allowed you grow and learn from. Or is there something that you would say…I will never do that again!
A: The two that stand out to me, not food, would be sex and money. When I was building FitnessMum, I didn’t really realize I was out to prove myself. The pattern I went through was one of not feeling good enough; I put that on to making money to prove that I could and spending money to prove I could and to feel good.
Q: What book are you reading?
A: I’ll be honest over the past 12 months I’ve had the most success I’ve ever had and I’ve read the least I’ve ever read! The type of books I’ve read have been different. I’m very big on letting the books find me.
Resources From This Episode
- Powerful Man on Facebook
- Conversations with God by Neal Donald Walsch
- The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer
- The Dark Side of The Light Chasers by Debbie Ford
- The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown
- The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
- Heal Your Body by Louise Hay
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